Hey lovelies. Thanks for sticking with me. By now it’s probably begun to seem like my blog has unceremoniously ended with a not-so-stellar post-Christmas special from early 2021. Well, when I decided a year ago to take a break from writing this blog, I didn’t expect so much time would pass before I returned to type …
Chapter 31 – Threesomes Part 1: It Takes Three
I don’t remember exactly who did what to whom, but I do remember it was glorious. We fell onto the bed, all three of us pulling off our clothes, wearing three matching grins. Afterwards, I would try and remember when exactly we all decided to stop. We were sweaty and giddy and making vague comments about how right it felt to fuck your friends.
Chapter 30 – Profiles: Vivian
I'm going to use this year’s V day as an excuse to tell you about one of my friends. I meet and make friends with many other poly people who have their own way of doing things. This new profiles series is about them.
Chapter 29 – Polyamory Post-Covid (+Recap)
I thought we’d emerge from lockdown victorious and thrumming with a desire for touch and connection. I had a glistening image of the nightclubs packed with thirsty, touch-starved people while a similar scene takes place online. Not quite.
POST-CHRISTMAS SPECIAL! This word “Family”
"To Julie and family." This word family—what does it mean? I am a twenty-something living in the city with no parents, children, or relatives within reach. To the local loved ones in my life, especially at Christmastime, this word is it’s either a hearty cry in support or a vague denial of the three of us as a unit.
Chapter 28 – Oscar: The Great Depression
Sometimes when we talk about polyamory it’s important to get perspective, how the different people and relationships relate to one another. But sometimes it’s important to reflect on the individuality of each, and how a single person can play a large role in the big picture. For me, Oz is one of these. This is how our story goes.
Chapter 27 – My Shifting Sexuality: The Sexuality Daemon (the Part that Matters)
I used to think there was nothing more natural than heterosexuality. Now, I remember the girl who believed that and shake my head in wonder. After all, we humans already tend towards the familiar. Things in common help us form an understanding, make us feel less alone. The shared experience is a home of its own. It’s a whole world I could live in and never leave. This is the essence of my shifting sexuality. I never thought I’d be seeing my Bi Days in the rearview mirror, but now I wonder where I actually stand? Do I want both like I once believed?
Chapter 26 – My Shifting Sexuality: Unsteady (the First Part)
Who’s to say what causes sexuality to shift? It’s not a science. It isn’t fixed, no matter how sure of it we feel. I’ve seen enough friends discover and re-discover themselves often enough when it comes to sexuality. But I had been losing my excitement over men for months. It was as though, when Lorin went, my whole attraction to men went with him. Meanwhile, I was extremely attentive to other women, even while my cooling attraction to men was slipping and breaking…
Chapter 25 – Coming Out (as Poly): Part 4 – To The Second Degree
I’ve written about coming out to friends and colleagues and I’ve written to coming out to close family, so I also wanted to include a short post on coming out to what I’ll call second-degree people. Apart from telling my mother, these people have been the hardest to navigate.
Chapter 24 – Coming Out (as Poly): Part 3 – To Her Family
Jules’ family dynamic was a complicated one, more complex even than mine, and was a web of who was and was not talking to whom—and who she felt could and could not handle the very significant details about the woman she was seeing. “I don’t really go gently,” she had said, indicating her previous relationships; uncomplicated relationships weren’t the kind that found her. But her priors didn’t make it much easier to be deviant, and neither of us ever expected telling them would be easy.
